For many women, the Saudi airport is the first time they see their husband in Arab dress (i.e., the thobe and ghutra).
For those American women reluctant to wear an abaya (the all-encompassing black cloak) and for those Saudi husbands who did not make an issue of the abaya prior to arriving, the intense public scrutiny that starts at the airport—given to a western woman who is accompanying a Saudi male—is usually the catalyst for the eventual covering up.
the Saudi-American relationship virtually always blossoms in the States, in a climate that allows dating, cohabitation, children out of wedlock, religious diversity, and a multitude of other Islamic sins which go unnoticed by Saudi relatives and religious leaders thousands of miles away.
Still others have drawn conclusions from their own experience and offered these for general use (see the posting of Standfree).
After a slow start, the discussion took off and now has 17,000 comments, or about four a day.
bitter experience teaches us that a particularly careful and in-depth preparation is called for.
During it the two fiancés will be helped to know and consciously "assume" the profound cultural and religious differences they will have to face, both between themselves and in relation to their respective families and the Muslim's original environment, to which they may possibly return after a period spent abroad.