Sometimes the words are a bit more fun — Syracuse is “dinosaur,” because the best restaurant in Syracuse is Dinosaur Bar-B-Que. Du Bois: In Chelsea, in Midtown Manhattan, the words are “modern,” “creatives” and “aesthetics,” because that’s where a lot of art galleries are.If you look downtown near Washington Square Park, you’ve got “voice” — as in “Village Voice.” Sometimes, though, the words don’t really make sense.You’ve got words like “cowardice,” “combustible” and “insubordinate” — they just pop up because more than one person in that zip code used that word in their profile.Du Bois: North Brooklyn is one of the more interesting maps, because it really illustrates the culture that’s taken root there.Du Bois talks us through the renamed country and shows why the keywords he uncovered constitute no less than the map of a population’s soul.
You can see how each part of the country has evolved.
Go to a matinee, visit an art gallery or museum, take a long walk in the park. While I’m not suggesting you wear your prom dress from circa 2007, I am suggesting you treat this as seriously as you would any other date. The scariest part was not knowing who I’d find when I finally got to where I was going. (Though, there definitely will be those things.) Like any long-term relationship, there will be challenges. You may discover things you never knew about yourself (this is a gift, treat it as such, no matter the information).
Whatever you do, resist the urge to pull out your cell phone. While it can be tempting to throw your hair in a high pony, slip into some yoga pants and your favorite sweater — I highly suggest you show up for yourself the same way you would show up for someone you’re trying to impress. What version of myself would I be in that little pizza joint in the strip mall?
), and where should I look, and , I’m spending way too much time in my own head. I’d never been this far from home, from family, from friends. I spent an afternoon at the movies — popcorn and all! I did make beautiful, lifelong friends in my new city.
I’d never truly known the heavy silence of distance, or been forced to rely on solely myself for company, conversation, and entertainment. But by that time, I was also in a healthy, stable, committed relationship with myself and reaping all the benefits. The whole idea can be totally intimidating at first. Pro Tip: If this is a first-date situation, the act of planning ahead for it also allows you the time to mentally prepare yourself for the adventure you’re about to embark on. If this is your first time, it might feel a little awkward. The point is to feel at home and at peace in your own company. There’s nothing like a little reflection to put your feelings into perspective, learn from your experiences, and expand your consciousness.