View internet pornography without engaging in any actual contact via E. Secrecy does not facilitate positive marital relations. My concern is that anger over the topic of pornography drives it further into the dark shadows, where it threatens to poison every aspect of the marriage. Cautionary Note: In no way do I support internet, or any type of pornography. However, if kept within the confines of a marriage between two consenting partners, then why not?
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It is not unusual for wives to believe they are no longer sexy enough for their husbands or that they have lost their attractiveness. The Wives: Virtually all of the women who posted about this topic report that they enjoy sex and are willing participants in sexual experimentation within the safety of their homes.
There are also worries that the children will discover the porno that Dad has been viewing on the computer. In other words, they are not people who refuse sexual relations or having fun with their husbands in the act of foreplay and sexuality. Please understand that the anger women feel over this is justifiable. However, if the husband is sexually stimulated by viewing these images and then uses this stimulation to enhance sexuality within the marriage, why not? Why not have husbands and wives jointly view the porn and become mutually stimulated so that there is no secrecy between them? Why not allow the issue of internet pornography to become a topic of open and frank discussion between spouses, much like other topics, such as money and vacations?
This happens with couples who are together anywhere from a few months to decades.
A large percentage report that they are contemplating divorce over the problem.
At Jeff’s worst he could be controlling (he didn’t like her socializing with other men, and he chided her if her clothes seemed too revealing) but he wasn’t a sexual deviant.
Yet the way he lurked around on the Internet and TV searching for this material…his behavior didn’t seem all that different from something much more unseemly.
Therefore, this discussion is limited to husbands who: 1. Rather, the problem is symptomatic of difficulties in the communication process within the relationship.It wasn’t long after Jeff admitted his fetish to Jennifer before things went sour.He’d kept it hidden from her as long as they’d been dating, but after an appointment with his psychiatrist convinced him that secrets were unhealthy, he thought it time to tell Jennifer about the sexual fantasy he’d been harboring since…well, as long as he could remember.Many wives feel offended by pornography for a number of reasons.These reasons vary from feeling betrayed, cheated on, devalued, and being lied to. Are not viewing child porn or pedophile behavior or porn involving violence.The problem of marriages being negatively affected by husbands who view pornography continues to be a very troubling issue, sometimes ending in divorce.It is understandable that many wives become incensed when their husbands continue to secretly view internet pornography after they have discussed it and asked them to stop.Was it something they could act out together in bed, she asked.(Not so much, he said.) Did it involve having another woman in bed with them? I mean, even he’d have to realize that all bets were off at that point. The only thing she wasn’t expecting was what the fetish actually turned out to be, and that was an obsession with magicians. Specifically, magicians sawing their assistants in half. Jeff told her that since he’d been a little boy, the image of seeing a woman locked in a box and cut into pieces was just ungodly arousing to him. Perplexing, even, and compared to what she’d been thinking, strangely innocuous. Was it something about having the woman bound and controlled?She knew what he was doing while she lay in bed watching TV and he sat in the other room in front of the computer.When he mentioned an idea for an illusion cabinet he wanted to build for her*, she stared at him blankly.