You don’t think workaholics are the way that they are because they’re so crazy about their job, do you?If you’re on the receiving end of this whole “I don’t have time for dating / a relationship” malarkey, take them at their word, not at their strokes whether they’re ego or sexual ones."We can all rearrange schedules for things that we really want," says Jessica O’Reilly, Ph D, sexologist and creator of the podcast."If Oprah called you tomorrow and asked you to lunch, you're probably going to find a way to make it work." It's totally fine to be prioritizing the other things in your life over dating at the moment."You don't necessarily have to meet for dinner," she says. "Or offer to meet them at the bar you're going to anyway an hour before your friends show up." (Though if you go that route, make sure you give enough buffer time so that your date doesn't get crashed by your friends.)The point is, if dating is something you'd like to prioritize, you might have to consider shifting things around a little bit."Dating has shifted to 'hanging out,' so you can meet for a quick, simple coffee instead." Dr. work near one another, you can try to leave the office for an hour for to get to know one another. "Everybody has a responsibility, if they want to meet someone, to make that time," Dr. Being busy is great — but finding time to also fit in the things you want to do can make those crazy times seem even better.
It’s also safe to say that we hang around out of fear that if we tell them to jog on, their schedule will magically open up for someone else. To be The Most Perfect Person On Earth TM and/or to have no needs, feelings, opinions etc? If a person doesn’t have time for you they don’t have time for a relationship which means that it can’t progress, it won’t be balanced, consistent, committed (in whatever guise that takes – it doesn’t have to mean marriage) or genuinely intimate, plus over time you will become desensitised to this treatment due to being used to that person (and you) using their super busyness to justify their behaviour and attitude.
” Just as who people are is self-evident, where a person’s priorities lie and what they make time for is self-evident too.
I don’t dispute that we’re busy people living in a busy world.
It’s a slippery slope because they end up on a pedestal and this automatically makes your relationship imbalanced.
I hear from people who have been making the busy excuse for ‘partners’ for anything from months to 20 years.