So you thought you’d finally met the woman or man of your dreams. The compliments seemed a bit excessive and even premature.Ignoring that nagging voice in your head, the relationship developed at a fast pace, faster than most of your other relationships and friendships.For example: Well hello there, Carl/Connie Codependent, do I have a deal for you today! Now, if an unscrupulous salesperson slithered up to you at the local used car lot and laid it on nice and thick like that, wouldn’t you reflexively raise an eyebrow to their patter?Only someone as smart, savvy, sophisticated, cultured, traveled, intuitive, honest, loving, handsome, beautiful, sexy, talented, blah, blah, blah as you can see what a GREAT opportunity this is. Now, I’ll just need you to sign here, here and here. You’d wonder, and rightly so, if the salesperson was trying to unload shoddy goods for their own personal gain at significant cost to you.And because you’re soooooo special to me, I’m going to offer this deal to you and only you (wink, wink, nudge, nudge). No matter how shiny and attractively presented a narcissist might appear to be at first glance, under the hood they’re all lemons.Your life will never be the same if you hitch your wagon to my star Together we’ll create crazy works of genius! And not the plump, juicy ripe lemons from which you can make lemonade.
Only you can truly understand the narcissist’s pain and see into their misunderstood heart. The idealization stage is when the love bombing occurs.
Not so with narcissists and other emotional predators and con artists.
They’re like the stereotypical used car salesmen or saleswomen of relationships.
” After all, how can someone know you well enough after just a few weeks (or a few days) to see all of your admirable qualities in such technicolor magnificence?
How can someone who barely knows you seriously love you in such a short amount of time and be willing to commit to you so quickly? You were being drugged with flattery, or love bombed.