We're furious that a little light cheating is necessary to attract a man of the age we want. I get the bit between my teeth and decide to favorite every man I find interesting on both websites to see what happens.
It's crazy that two successful and sassy women are having to pander to what men like to get what we want. If the odds are stacked against you and it's a numbers game, you need to play those odds. And the fat thighs don't make it on to Gayle's profile either.
I look at the age of women that the men were seeking by changing my age on a fake profile I created. I could not bear the horrified disappointment in the eyes of a date when creature more elderly than expected rocks up.What does offend me is that Ok Cupid is monetizing a service that is unlikely to bring its users closer to better dates, relationships, or sex. Is that a euphemism for “overweight,” or does it signal that you have enormous boobs? Asking for a friend.) Attractiveness, too, is impossible to crowdsource.Consider the body types that users can select for themselves and their prospective partners. A person considered particularly alluring by the Ok Cupid algorithm may be repulsive to you, and vice versa.Pre-date flirting was high, and before I headed out, I fussed in front of the mirror. “I think he’s out of my league,” I fretted to the babysitter, a friend. Besides, Ok Cupid users have always been able to organize their matches by height, income, and ethnicity for free.Asian fetishists have long used the service to shoot off messages like “Konichiwa!When you post selfies from eight, pre-baby years ago, your opening line is: “I am ashamed of who I am.I am unlovable.” When you market yourself with shame, you deny your ability to be vulnerable — and connect with a man in a real and intimate way.Early in the evening, as I rose from the table to head for the bathroom, I was he disappointingly checked out my thighs, squeezed into a pair of black jeans. The online dating site Ok Cupid has instituted a feature that allows users to pay a monthly fee to filter out potential dates by body type (users select their own category, from choices like “skinny,” “curvy,” and “used up”) and their attractiveness level (as determined by the Ok Cupid hivemind). As Gawker put it: “Ok Cupid Users Can Now Pay to Weed Out Uggos and Fatties.” The filtration system itself doesn’t strike me as particularly offensive.