No one is suggesting Black women avoid black men altogether. We’ve been trying to “work through our issues” for over a century.
Why is it “problematic” to open yourself up to other men who might love you?Candice: There seems to be a stronger reaction to Black men who date outside their race than Black women who do the same. But when men do the same, it’s often seen as a betrayal. Christelyn: Actually, I’ve experienced that in the reverse.Historically, Black men have been dating and marrying interracially at higher rates than Black women for the last 40 years.Last holiday season gave me plenty of food for thought on this all too familiar and often uncomfortable racially-tinged question.One of my male relatives brought home a date for Thanksgiving who could have been Barbie's twin sister.It’s time to have an honest, open discussion about interracial relationships.No, I don’t mean gabbing about the latest drama between Olivia and Fitz.Unlike other dating experts, hers is a success story. Here’s what she had to say: Candice: Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you’ve become an advocate for interracial couples?Christelyn: As with most advocacy, my motivation comes from having my own experiences.Yet we’re statistically the least likely to date interracially. My goal is to encourage Black women to exercise all of their options. Discount no one because of melanin, or lack thereof. Candice: What advice would you offer women who don’t date interracially because of what people might think? I know a few women who would never date interracially, despite the knowledge that men of other races are interested in them.Candice: Why do you think there are so many Black women who don’t consider dating outside their race? Our country’s shameful history of slavery is often used as a club to beat Black women into submission about dating interracially, particularly when it comes to white men. I would say that if you’re the type of person who is overly concerned with what other people think about your life, then interracial dating is not for you.