And having a wide variety of options to choose from is ideal, right? Too many choices or options can actually cause inactivity or paralysis.
I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.Say "yes" to the candidates who first show interest in you, as you've actually got a shot with this person, as opposed to the illusive candidate who's not responding to your message or expressing even a remote amount of interest in you.If you're a woman and uncomfortable emailing a man first, try using the "favorite" option available on many of the online sites, giving a man a good indicator that you'll respond to his invitation if he were to initiate.Hide your online profile to minimize distractions and the Opportunity Cost phenomenon.Relax and explore possibilities with this real, live person right before you, rather than worrying if you're missing someone else who might be a bigger, better deal.5. Or at a huge restaurant buffet that offers so many food options and varieties that you feel overwhelmed, and after being inundated with so many choices, you end up unenthusiastic about eating any of it. You may have experienced this phenomenon when trying to decide what to order at a deli that has a 15-page menu. I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.The first girl, he said, was “a little too tall,” and the second girl was “a little too short.” Then he met my mom. Let’s look at how I do things, maybe with a slightly less important decision, like the time I had to pick where to eat dinner in Seattle when I was on tour last year.Don't Waste More Than 30 Minutes A Day Looking At People Online You'll avoid the overwhelm and paralysis that the buffet phenomenon can cause.3.Take Matters Into Your Own Hands Initiate invitations, rather than waiting for them to come your way.