Then they will punish you for having the audacity to tell the truth and trying to hold an abusive woman accountable for the harm she does to others.Now if you sit in on other cases and see your judge it not a blithering biased moron who acts like I describe above, maybe you might be willing to take some risks about mentioning the BPD. The reason he is so well versed in this field is because Dr. Most people are loathe to openly state that they exhibit, in Vaknin’s , “a life-long pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one’s self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one’s gratification, dominance and ambition.” Some of us may visualize a friend or family member when reading this description. (Except me, if I ever get to be the Real Housewives psychologist. Sam Vaknin was non-narcissistic enough to consent to be interviewed by me, although really it must feed his narcissistic supply since Dr. So we all know this is going to do more for than for mine.
Pampering, smothering, spoiling, and “engulfing” the child are also forms of abuse . Pathological narcissism is a defense mechanism intended to deflect trauma. Narcissists feel trapped, shackled, and enslaved by the quotidian, by the repetitive tasks that are inevitably involved in fulfilling one’s assignments.If you know about a past history of abuse during her childhood, sharing some of this with the kids may help them understand why she has the problems she does.It can also show you can have some empathy for her, despite how badly she has treated you.Ideally you should have evidence that she was abused as a kid by people other than you to help reduce this threat.You would probably be a lot safer on discussing particular provable examples and patterns of abusive and destructive behavior related to the BPD without bringing it up yourself.Others may be reminded of their spouse, or, more happily, an ex-spouse. (I would link you to my CV there to compare, but, you know what, I lost it. Even the hard ones.) And then his wife, Lidija Rangelovska, consented to be interviewed as well! Gaslighting is a pernicious form of stealth or ambient abuse.Either way, we are all transfixed by the idea of narcissists, as is evidenced by their prevalence in the popular media. So, without further ado, I present the Narcissist and His Wife. You will note he was kind of openly annoyed with some of my questions, which is pretty funny in and of itself. What parts of your upbringing may have contributed to your narcissism in later life? The abuser is hidden from view and operates behind the scenes. I would like any pain and damage I inflict to be attributed to me and to inspire shock, awe, and fear in my victims and adversaries. A: I have been successful in various fields, but I would have been considerably more accomplished had I not been a self-defeating, misanthropic, and sadistic narcissist .A: The double whammy of being, first put on a pedestal, idolized, and forced into fulfilling my mother’s unrealized fantasies of grandeur – and then physically and psychologically tortured over a period of 13 years. In other words, I am a sadistic bully: I feel elated when my self-imputed omnipotence is affirmed by my ability to intimidate, unsettle, and terrify. I have leveraged my affliction via my writings and very popular videos to obtain narcissistic supply and to make a living, but this is a far cry from what I could and should have been had I been mentally sound.Pathological narcissism is a reaction to prolonged abuse and trauma in early childhood or early adolescence. Many narcissists are under-qualified and lack skills because they can’t be bothered with the minutia of obtaining an academic degree, professional training, or exams.Facts and statistics about BPD do not matter to most of these judges unless they are presented by a “licensed medical practitioner” or “licensed psychologist”.If you present them, even if you are provably correct in what you say and have extensive documentation to back you up, many of these judges will make fun of you for pretending to be an expert because you don’t have a government-issued license.