Wake-up, you're not the first person in the world to go through tough times.If you're crying all the time because of your man, stop telling yourself it's going to be better after the tough times. If you're crying over little things like hasn't texted you back, your missing the writing on the wall. Because if it were just the fact that he didn't text you back, it wouldn't make you cry. You Want Him To Have a Different Career He's an actor/model/musician and he hasn't been paid for anything but waiting tables in eight years and you're hoping the two of you move back to Michigan and that he takes over his Dad's contracting business.And of course they can see fifty possible answers but none of them include the obvious: BREAK UP WITH HIM.I used to think that finding the right person to be with was about finding the person in the world who makes you the happiest.
All the time, I hear girls discuss bouncing back from an incident where she went through his phone and found inappropriate texts or facebook messages where he was asking to be [expletive deleted] by another girl or simply obsessing about where he might be, every time she can't get a hold of him. Three weeks later, you're wondering if he's done something recently that he didn't tell you about, so you check again the moment he leaves you in the car with his phone while he's double parked. You think the reason you do this is your own anxiety or because your Dad cheated on your mom or that you have trust issues and you believe you will be acting like this no matter whom you're in a relationship with. If you can't both be happy in one location together, you do not have a happy relationship because by definition, one of you will always be in a place that you don't want to be in.
Regardless of what it is, if you are imagining your life with him in a way that includes him having a different job, you need to stop fooling yourself. If you can be in a happy relationship while he's tending bar, enjoy your happy relationship.
If your happiness is contingent upon his job changing, accept that you are not in a happy relationship. You Want Him to Be More Thoughtful I used to constantly be hoping that my ex would make restaurant reservations. I just for once wanted him to plan some time with me.
The trick is of those people you could potentially love, finding the one who also upsets you the least.
I believe finding the right person is about choosing the person who not only makes you feel that euphoric aura of love, but who also doesn't make you cry. You Want to Live in Different Places I have a heard a variation of this for many years.