Because Vancouver doesn’t have that dating mechanism, it’s awkward for people to ask each other out.”Many of the men he’s worked with find Vancouver women to be intimidating.
Sebastien Lessard, 37, who came to Vancouver from Quebec City seven years ago, can attest to the intimidation factor.
For the record, she says, “I don’t think Vancouver men suck.Throw in the French accent and the wry sense of humour, and Lessard just might be the total package.The women at the back table of the Bottleneck bar on Granville Street are a cluster of long locks, funky accessories, a mix of tanned and fair, naturally athletic bodies and discreetly dabbed lip gloss.At 47, Derkson has no kids, and has never been married — nor is she desperate to get hitched. People are cold.” While living in Florida a few years ago, she was turning men away.“I think the Latin culture in Florida really helps; people are warm, men smile at you on the street. Men here, they don’t even turn their head to look at you.”Back in Vancouver, she just wishes that when she smiles at someone on the street, they would smile back.She’d be happy with just a little more warmth and sensuality. Rachel Fox, a 34-year-old writer, says her experiences of meeting men in other cities, like New York, where she used to live, are incredibly different than in Vancouver: “The pool is a lot bigger there.I don’t think it’s fair or accurate to blame the city.If someone turns you down, just don’t take it personally.They don’t accept that men are what they are; the women have been burned a couple of times, they’ve read all the articles, they have a checklist: uh oh, he didn’t shave for three days. They believe their own conclusions about what a good guy is and what non-relationship material is; some weird criteria.”Kevin Quinlan, whose job as director of policy and communication for Mayor Gregor Robertson keeps him on call, even when he’s on a date, says he doesn’t buy into the idea that Vancouver is the problem.“Vancouver is an incredibly diverse place.Generalizations obscure the fact that there are so many people with different interests.It’s not realistic to expect instant gratification leading to lifelong fulfilment from everybody you meet.”He is also totally comfortable dating across all ethnicities.Quinlan, who has recently found a girlfriend, has a few quirks, like reciting the lyrics to ‘90s gangsta rap songs, but he doesn’t put it all out there on a first date.