In Part 1 we explored the personality type associated with traits of borderline personality disorder, or BPD, and the unusual pattern of Dr. Hyde transformation that so many of these women go through when they enter a romantic relationship.
With this understanding of what makes the woman with traits of BPD engage in these destructive behavior patterns, let’s now turn to the question of why so many men stay even when it’s clear that the woman they are with is not capable of sustaining a healthy relationship.
Passion and excitement may attract a future mate initially, but long-term relationships require self-discipline.
The nice-guy type gets very high marks in the area of relationship safety and security.
When we don’t, our relationship partners experience our selfish actions as a mild form of betrayal of our relationship agreement.
When we enter a relationship, we are expected to be able to give up our self-centered ways and treat our partner’s interests as equally important as our own.
What they tend to overlook is the fact that betrayal happens on a much more subtle level every day in all of our relationships.
Humans are naturally a little bit selfish, and we fade in and out of this slightly narcissistic mode as we go through life.
In order to understand the dynamic of this couple, we need to answer a very important question.
What was it about this man that attracted a woman with traits of BPD in the first place?